tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post8334368809370569728..comments2023-10-26T02:13:03.378-07:00Comments on Acting White Acting Black: #14 Why Are Black Girls So Loud?James C. Collierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06268279457459050826noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-29909833640329389752018-05-17T06:08:32.278-07:002018-05-17T06:08:32.278-07:00I am white and am currently working with a black g...I am white and am currently working with a black girl who is so obnoxious. Granted, within my office there is a black manager -- one of the finest, most gifted I have encountered - along with a very professional black lady, who is Christian, takes pride in her work, and is respectful. <br /><br />This black girl -- and I say "girl" as she is in her early 20s -- fits the stereotype to a T. During the whole shift, she needs to bring attention to herself, me me me! laughing, carrying on, being a clown, easily distracted. <br /><br />She tells the mixed race off that on weekends she protests "white privilege" and "male supremacy." <br /><br />She has lost many jobs, she said -- over accusations of mishandling money, theft, "drama." She explains that she gets fired because of "racism" and "issues with my hair." She claims that employers told her they didn't like her frizzy hair. Turns out this was a lie, that the statement came from a boy she was trying to date who told her he would prefer her to straighten her hair. <br /><br />She has thrown herself at men in the office, causing one to get fired. She has also thrown herself at women, including me, pronouncing herself bisexual. <br /><br />She has no standards, laughs and carries on in the office -- her voice is the one that can be heard talking nonsense throughout the entire office, all down the halls in our otherwise quiet office. <br /><br />She has created one disruption after another. Dare you say anything and it's "white privilege" and "racism" or "I'm a gonna hurt someone!"<br /><br />I have asked her to be quiet when I am trying to work -- she will be quiet for one minute and then start up again, just can't control herself. <br /><br />She reminds me of those toddlers at McDonalds who run around knocking things over, screaming, laughing without restraint while other children are being respectful and quiet and the parents do nothing. She is an out of control toddler. <br /><br />I know she enjoys making me uncomfortable as this is her way of establishing dominance and if anyone dares say anything they are "racist." <br /><br />The whole tenor of the office has changed from comfortable, respectful, working as a team to disruptive, with this drama queen causing problems everywhere and being loud and obnoxious. <br /><br />How she has not been fired yet is beyond me but I suspect her activist parents have called in to the employer and threatened them if they even dare. She brags that they do this, by the way. <br /><br />After bragging about how easy it is to rob banks while she was working as a teller, she bragged about how a local car dealer robbed her employer and that her mom then went over to that dealer and was "given a free car." <br /><br />Even the black men are appalled by this new hire. She's loud, crass, and disruptive -- but considers herself a "strong, black woman." <br /><br />You can't do anything about this disruption otherwise you get called "racist" or she will threaten to "hurt someone." <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-15578518934015789062018-03-22T06:41:25.042-07:002018-03-22T06:41:25.042-07:00Humanly speaking, what is wrong with a need to be ...Humanly speaking, what is wrong with a need to be attended to? The need doesn't go away after birth Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-46626628604127645242017-11-14T12:30:03.704-08:002017-11-14T12:30:03.704-08:00@Sean in Canada, I think your resolve should be to...@Sean in Canada, I think your resolve should be to not rent a room in a house with inconsiderate people - regardless of their ethnicity, religion, sex, orientation, or otherwise. Topic aside, your general misassignment of your roomate's loudness will very likely prove itself arbitrary with your next set of roommates, sans black females. With all the individual diversity in the world you are in for a tough go.James C. Collierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06268279457459050826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-51407122014864809742017-11-14T11:56:26.548-08:002017-11-14T11:56:26.548-08:00I'm moving out of the nice room I've been ...I'm moving out of the nice room I've been renting because of the black girl in the house. We have 2 white, 2 black and a Muslim in the house. The black girl has destroyed the dynamic in the house due to her non-stop YELLING when she's on the phone. It goes on for hours and she is incredibly ignorant, and now I'm looking for somewhere else to live because of her. Never again will I rent a room in a house where a black girl lives. The black man in the house is not loud and very respectful of others, total opposite of the black girl.<br /><br />Sean in Canada.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-50434681017009339852016-12-26T07:51:36.056-08:002016-12-26T07:51:36.056-08:00I came to the web to specifically look up "Wh...I came to the web to specifically look up "Why are blacks, specifically females, are not too loud but with a tone of an argument. I loved "The View" once upon a time. Once menopause set in my senses became sensitive, including noises. I had the TV tuned to Hallmark's Friends and Family as background noise this morning. Out of the blue, I heard arguing and assumed someone had changed the channel to Winfrey. Nope, they had a new black female comedian - WOW. I took the time to listen to her. She was referring to great times, her mentor and love of engineering. She fooled me sitting and watching her.<br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-22310505295988879502016-11-15T04:49:26.142-08:002016-11-15T04:49:26.142-08:00So true you're either loud or half dressed lo...So true you're either loud or half dressed lolAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02932460696112493890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-16225349077823789412015-12-31T06:14:13.556-08:002015-12-31T06:14:13.556-08:00You dont even see the irony. Do you. You DID have ...You dont even see the irony. Do you. You DID have the last word. HAHA Point in case. Thx for making the point stand clear.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-27843459606244895062015-05-24T21:48:58.393-07:002015-05-24T21:48:58.393-07:00Another thing I've noticed: This is a black AM...Another thing I've noticed: This is a black AMERICAN thing. I live in a very diverse city, and the black people I encounter who are actually from other parts of the world, but most especially from Africa, are actually very soft-spoken. So much so that at work, when my African customers ask questions, I often have to ask them to repeat themselves. Therefore, any "racial" or "genetic" explanations are, imho, BS.M.K. Greenwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01974036111560994232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-90151406887072499042014-06-05T22:03:46.140-07:002014-06-05T22:03:46.140-07:00I think it's a poverty connection. For complex...I think it's a poverty connection. For complex societal reasons (many of which need challenge and change), black people tend to be poor, or at least from poor backgrounds. I've noticed that poor people of every race tend to be louder and more "obnoxious" than those from upper or middle class backgrounds. Some sociologists (like the author of "the Hidden Language of Poverty") say isn't that poor people have no manners, it's because generational poverty is a culture of itself, and the "rules" are different. Speaking with proper grammar, for example, while considered proper for the middle class, is seen as snooty for people from generational poverty. There may also be hidden culture rules for how loud someone is supposed to talk. M.K. Greenwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01974036111560994232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-60347041628261104912014-02-24T19:58:51.235-08:002014-02-24T19:58:51.235-08:00Ok, so I'm a black female. I grew up in a midd...Ok, so I'm a black female. I grew up in a middle class family and hung out with upper/upper middle class friends. Since then (about 10 years ago; in high school), I've had quite a variety of experiences involving very poor (economically) people. I have noticed the loud talking that tends to occur with black women who have lived a disadvantaged life. However, this is not something exclusive to black women. It really sucks that all black women have to take the rap for a few black women. It makes me wonder if you notice the black women who fit this stereotype. I know that being loud is not socially acceptable and that you must further yourself to change the overall impression of your race/gender. But, most of the time these women are not taught these things about the society we live in. Instead, they feel by being loud, they can be seen as a whole human. Society does not view them as "whole". And another thing, the black women that do talk loudly and seem rude, they're speaking with passion and sincerity. No blinders, no fakeness. <br /><br />Overall, to me, loud talking isn't a big deal. I wish I were that expressive. People ask me all the time why I always look so "sad". It's because I don't want to perpetuate the loud black woman stereotype. I don't understand why people can't just be themselves without being judged. It's only because black people are at the bottom of the totem pole and people feel more comfortable blaming us for their problems because it makes them feel better. Black women who try to succeed in life and uphold family values are often ignored and overshadowed by negative stereotypes. <br /><br />Malnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-68550250439512841682013-11-26T12:56:11.913-08:002013-11-26T12:56:11.913-08:00PS. For more on this, read the abridged version of...PS. For more on this, read the abridged version of "Race Behavior and Evolution" by Rushton which explains the different studies, the traits they documented, and the evolutionary reasons for the differences.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-13458882848206041482013-07-12T12:22:13.764-07:002013-07-12T12:22:13.764-07:00@Good Morning Bluez
You are severely delusional. ...@Good Morning Bluez<br /><br />You are severely delusional. There is no excuse for the volume and half assed broken english most talk with when in that setting. It's not about love it's about the need for being heard. You can deny it all you want. Everybody who encounters this ridiculous behavior knows it to be true. Hopefully word gets out that it doesn't make them attractive, intimidating, classy. Quite the opposite actually. ObnoxiousBeGonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-68391976496480615492013-06-22T12:50:32.459-07:002013-06-22T12:50:32.459-07:00I personally don't have any problem with black...I personally don't have any problem with black people.but its natural for people to notice the others's behavior.what I have noticed about black people particularly black women,they really are kind of rude and loud.If not all,at least majority of them are loud and rude.<br /><br />you will find out most of the white,asian middle eastern,south asian girls quite at library,but black girls will always make noise,talk loudly on phone.even,If you indirectly show a hint which means that you are offended.they will not care about that and continue with their stuff.<br /><br />3 black ladies live in the house I am living in,and 7 white people.you can clearly undestand who came inside just by the way they close the door.black women push the door that the 2nd neighbor can hear the noise.loud music,loudly speaking,yelling,irritating laughter.these all are what they are known for.<br /><br />I hope black people,specially women try to change their behavior,sometimes it becomes really difficult to bear them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-72195296000922280632012-12-26T13:13:01.983-08:002012-12-26T13:13:01.983-08:00I have to comment on the part where you mentioned ...I have to comment on the part where you mentioned that it tends to be black women and not usually men. I have to disagree. In every black neighborhood I've been to (which has been quite a bit)the black men are just as loud, rude and arrogant. "Yo, what it do?" "Get the F away from my car, n****!" & arguing are some of the things I've heard from black men specifically. Numerous times, might I add. As for the rest of your artical, I agree. Black women can be loud and in your face.<br />Like one time when I was pushing my son's stroller across the parking lot, this black women swears I 'eyeballed' her wrong. She cursed me out in front of my kid and said, "You shouldn't have your d*** baby in the street!" I've had similar run-ins with black women. Most tend to be loud and rude. I try to steer clear of black people when possible. Too many bad apples make the whole bunch look bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-21139889901511420442011-09-24T20:40:20.265-07:002011-09-24T20:40:20.265-07:00I've always wondered this. I am a very soft sp...I've always wondered this. I am a very soft spoken person, and so are my mother and sister, but father is louder ( he is also from NYC). Oddly enough I've rarely heard a woman with a quieter voice than my own. I actually have trouble being heard in loud places...<br /><br /> I find loud voices to be distracting and uncouth- perhaps there is also a class distinction? Whenever someone is inordinately loud I feel defensive and slightly anxious.<br /><br />Well, I just wanted to prove that not all Blacks are loud. Perhaps it is a social adjustment made for those who grow up in large families (where it's a struggle to be heard), and obviously vocal pitch is genetic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-81505204161089693722011-09-24T11:36:11.143-07:002011-09-24T11:36:11.143-07:00In my experience, it's not so much based on sk...In my experience, it's not so much based on skin color or ethnicity... people who live in bigger cities generally tend to be cockier, louder, and ,ore obnoxious.Mikenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-37759558884600047072011-05-14T00:48:02.495-07:002011-05-14T00:48:02.495-07:00I agree with the comments about loud, young white ...I agree with the comments about loud, young white men. Can be VERY obnoxious. <br /><br />Also, many young people of various ethnic backgrounds call attention to themselves by using high decibel levels and attention getting behavior. "OH MY GOD! HE DRUNK DIALED ME AT MIDNIGHT! HAHAHAHA!' or, 'AMBER'S GOT AN STD! EVERYONE IN SCHOOL KNOWS ABOUT IT!'<br /><br />The young people in question are, in effect, saying: 'Look at us. We are young and attractive. You are less attractive, so you will sit quietly while we monopolize this social setting.' Attractive behavior? Not really.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-74668226928393147812010-10-28T07:20:43.983-07:002010-10-28T07:20:43.983-07:00Professor Collier
Add Nicey Nash to the list, why ...Professor Collier<br />Add Nicey Nash to the list, why do i have to turn down volume on my tellie, everytime this sista opens her mouth!lincolnperryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162053529584618471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-85074817628766012302010-10-26T09:37:58.368-07:002010-10-26T09:37:58.368-07:00Tasha B, I agree that volume has its place, but I ...Tasha B, I agree that volume has its place, but I think you are missing the point - the loudness of these girls is too often intrusive on those around them.James C. Collierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06268279457459050826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-50867070752720027062010-10-26T08:09:04.954-07:002010-10-26T08:09:04.954-07:00Maybe they are not trying to be attractive, and wh...Maybe they are not trying to be attractive, and why should they be attractive towards you?<br /><br />Yes most young people are loud not only black youngsters, maybe your area is different from mine and others. But they are just young and enjoying their conversation. People should mind their own business and let others be free.Tasha Bnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-26678241166534059122010-10-19T00:55:41.915-07:002010-10-19T00:55:41.915-07:00Thank You Jael!! It is a very complex at times bu...Thank You Jael!! It is a very complex at times but unique characteristic so there is no way to fully call it. they are just the way they are at times...you must listen each time to really understand whats going on. I wish more people would just pay attention..even if you are annoyed to find out what at least is going on before labeling it as GHETTO or trashy...<br /><br />THIS BRINGS ON ANOTHER TOPIC! I HOPE MR COLLIER BLOGS ABOUT THIS..<br /><br />WHEN FOLKS LABEL ANYTHING BLACKS DO AS GHETTO OR LOW CLASS! UGH!! I HATE THAT...seems like time someone finds out something is black owned or black sponsored, they are already talking about they better not start on CP time and they know its just going to be uber ghetto! I hate that! try to do something positive, and folk still dont want to be apart of it! <br /><br />Sorry about my language and punctuation...I am a lot more well spoken..but very informal when typing my opinions...<br /><br />thank you again,<br />DELLA aka GOOD MORNING BLUEZDaddy Squeeze Me!https://www.blogger.com/profile/14857915791876792168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-77503035119561510502010-10-18T17:17:13.791-07:002010-10-18T17:17:13.791-07:00I found what "Good Morning Bluez" said i...I found what "Good Morning Bluez" said interesting. I was going to say I can't stand their loud, screechy, obnoxious bratty behavior, that I consider it a poor reflection on the parent (without the "s" usually) but from what GMB said, I realized that it can be a pleasantly unique characteristic of young black girls, all talking at the same time over each other excitedly and laughing, wisecracking, on the bus and there are times when I do like it and have a chuckle at the subject matter and their antics. I guess it isn't all "loud" behavior that I feel is annoying but moreso the "quality" of the loud behavior, if that makes any sense. I kind of like loud people, and loud, excited conversation by black girls (or any kids, or even adults) can be joyous, depending on what they are animatedly discussing. But unfortunately, for the most part, it is either mean, threatening, foul or attention-seeking and has a hollowness to it. And they usually leave all their trash and food-droppings on the seats and floor of the bus. Kind of sad, really.<br /><br />JaelAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-37912806554272467472010-10-10T08:40:35.089-07:002010-10-10T08:40:35.089-07:00Professor Collier
It all goes back to the antebul...Professor Collier<br /><br />It all goes back to the antebullem culture of slavery, and ANON comment about a lack of love, respect and worth! So the volume comes from their Whoville mentality...We Are Here, We Are Here! Remember the Dr Sesus Fable!<br /><br />Its all attempt to be recognized, because of society treating them as an invisible stigma!lincolnperryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02162053529584618471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-16225897754172107942010-10-02T17:18:09.319-07:002010-10-02T17:18:09.319-07:00Anonymous Anonymous said...
"I feel it&#...Anonymous Anonymous said...<br /><br /> "I feel it's completely appropriate to feel hate towards some people whom i consider social refuse."<br /><br /> I would hope this hate is spread equally across, racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic lines.<br />-----<br />Oh really ? I'm not saying that my antipathy and hate is directed exclusively at the aforementioned groups, but i have to say that i don't believe for 1min that i have to spread my hate "equally".<br />You sound like someone on the left. Don't you hate the wallstreeters much much more than the underclass criminals? You have your own reasons, right ? Then i have my own reasons to focus my hate.ogunsironhttp://www.gmail.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25734096.post-61426119918781206672010-09-29T21:05:25.443-07:002010-09-29T21:05:25.443-07:00Anonymous said...
A defensive author and hate...Anonymous said...<br /><br /> A defensive author and hateful commnents from readers...including the "unfortunately non aborted spawns" comment....<br />--<br />Lol :)<br />Why are you calling the author defensive ? He's simply arguing his case and you and some other people aren't.<br />As for my comment : I feel it's completely appropriate to feel hate towards some people whom i consider social refuse. Since you probably need it spelled out : social refuse = among others, violent criminals whose moms cry on tv about what great kids and good boys they are.ogunsironhttp://www.gmail.comnoreply@blogger.com